As parents and carers we want the best for our young people, and we’re used to making decisions for them, with their best interests at heart. As they become older, the responsibility for making these decisions moves from the people with parental responsibility over to the young person themselves. The role of the parent or carer changes from making decisions to supporting and advising our young people to make their own. This doesn’t mean you won’t be listened to, or that your views won’t be taken into account, but in most cases the ultimate decision rests with them.
As we’ve said in other parts of the SEND Local Offer, the NHS considers that:
‘People aged 16 or over are entitled to consent to their own treatment. This can only be overruled in exceptional circumstances.’ You can read more here: .
The same is true in education, once a young person is over compulsory school age, regarding who makes decisions, in chapter 8, of the SEND Code of Practice, Preparing for Adulthood, it states:
‘As young people develop, and increasingly form their own views, they should be involved more and more closely in decisions about their own future. After compulsory school age (the end of the academic year in which they turn 16) the right to make requests and decisions under the Children and Families Act 2014 applies to them directly, rather than to their parents. Parents, or other family members, can continue to support young people in making decisions, or act on their behalf, provided that the young person is happy for them to do so, and it is likely that parents will remain closely involved in the great majority of cases.’ Section 8.13 .
In some cases it might be that the young person doesn’t have the mental capacity to make their own decisions and you may have to consider applying to court to become their deputy.
Resources:
We have listed several resources here that we have found online or have been recommended to us, which may help and support you when you are considering parental responsibility and decision making. We have made every attempt to ensure all information held here is accurate, but we cannot accept any responsibility for third party websites, their inclusion here is for your information only and does not represent endorsement or recommendation by the council.
The charity Contact has an article on which you may want to read.
Mencap have produced a mental capacity resource pack, which you can download here: . They have also published a useful article on appointees, deputies etc. which you can download here: .
The NHS have also produced a guide about the Mental Capacity Act and how it relates to health and social care: You can read it here: .
You may find this easy read guide to the Mental Capacity Act useful when you are talking to your young person: .